Manifesting
Today is 11/11. The powerful manifesting day. Manifestation is thrown around a lot and there are many views on how and why it works or doesn't. There is often this perspective that you are creating something from nothing or filling a void. That's not how I see it. For me, it's about transmuting energy from one place to another or from one thing to another, and this is done on an emotional level. Energy is constant; nothing is ever fully destroyed or created to or from nothing. So, when you are manifesting, you are calling energy in or taking old energy out and shifting it. This is possible through emotions and thought.
The thought is the last part; it is the witnessing. We create by witnessing. Healers heal by witnessing the change and that witnessing creates it in our reality. So, manifesting with thought is witnessing what you want to create and bringing it forward in this reality. Witnessing is validation. So, it is good to have positive thought and think what you want to create, but that works best when your emotional self is in alignment.
The Fairies talk about how we create from what we feel, not what we think. This is seen as, I feel like I lack, so I create lack in my life. It can manifest that way, but what if you were not in conflict and judgment about lack? What if you were at peace with what something was? It is our emotional attachment to an experience that makes it recreate in our lives. This emotional attachment looks like conflict, power struggle, and the inability to let go. This can be internal, but it also can be acted out in our life and relationships. Our emotional attachments can be so strong that we take them on as identities. “I'm no good with money.” “I'm stupid.” “I push everyone away.” These are phrases that show emotional attachment to an experience that will keep recreating itself to validate your reality. To put it another way, you experience something where the feeling is so strong that you become emotionally attached and continue to witness it into your reality. So, even when you try to change your thoughts, you think “I am abundant,” but you feel like that is a lie. That feeling is so strong, you are witnessing your thought as a lie.
So yes, over time, positive thought can help change the emotion and the witnessing. Another way is to address the feeling and acknowledge that it is just a feeling and doesn't have to be your truth. Accepting that the past was true then or the current feelings are true now but that doesn't mean it has to continue to be true helps release the attachment or need for validation. Each day is a new day and you need to open to the possibilities. Just letting go of a need to know the outcome or thinking you know the outcome can bring change. This is why I think it is better to open up yourself to not knowing the outcome. If you can't believe you can have $500 show up (for an example, this could be a new love or job or whatever else you are trying to manifest), and when you say it, you feel like it is a lie, and all it does is bring up guilt, shame, or feelings of lack, then you are going to struggle with manifesting it. If you can say, “I don't know how money is going to come into my life or how much, but I am open to having more money,” you are side-stepping the emotional attachment. I understand why many people talk about being specific in their manifesting, but honestly, I see that hurt and block more than it helps. It also, to me, speaks to a level of not trusting the Universe/God.
If you have faith in any kind of high power (within or outside of you), then you need to trust that it is always bringing you your highest and best. I didn't say your most joyous or most comfortable, just your highest and best. You also have to accept that you will not always know the reasons why or understand how a situation that is painful is your highest and best. Again, we are talking about detachment. To me, detachment means you let go of trying to understand, control, or be invested in any outcome. You open to experience the present moment and allow the moment or path to unfold.
How I would suggest you manifest is explore the feeling you are longing for. Maybe what you think is money is really safety or stability. Maybe what you think is a new relationship is really being supported or seen or just loved. Think about the feeling and start opening to that. Take your focus to the feeling instead of the how. This, again, side-steps the emotional blocks you have about what you think you are lacking and frees the Universe to bring you what you want in any way you can receive now. Then, it will open you to more and more of that as you become more and more comfortable in that experience.
Blessing Bags for Natasha
October is Domestic Violence Awareness month. I have partnered with FADV (Fight Against Domestic Violence) in the past and it has always been a movement I strongly believe in. This year, however, it has even more importance. My cousin was killed back in January by her ex during a child exchange. This was both devastating and shocking. I wanted to do something in my cousin’s memory.
I am doing a fundraiser to create Blessing Bags fro Marjie’s House (a local woman’s shelter) and also to donate money to FADV. I have partnered with a good friend, Laura who is a Posh consultant, so we can provide the best products possible for our blessing bags.
Marjie’s House is a joint project of the Housing Authority of Island County, the Opportunity Council and CADA. Located in Oak Harbor, WA. FADV generates resources for domestic violence service providers through corporate, individual, and community partnerships.
You have multiple options to help out:
$25 provides one blessing bag.
A bag full of personal care products delivered to Marjie’s House. It will include a Lacquer Strip set and a Big Fat Yummy Hand Cream, as well as grooming tools, dental care, and other items to bring comfort to a shelter resident.
$35 provides one blessing bag and either a Lacquer Strip or BFYHC for you
Not only will you provide a blessing to someone else you get a random Lacquer Strip OR Big Fat Yummy Hand Cream mailed to you with our thanks.
$45 provides one blessing bag and a Lacquer Strip and BFYHC plus a bonus gift for you
Not only will you provide a blessing to someone else you get a random Lacquer Strip AND Big Fat Yummy Hand Cream, plus a bonus gift mailed to you with our thanks.
You can also donate a random amount of money to help our fundraiser. All funds will be used to provide as many blessing bags as possible. We will be donating any additional money as well as part of our commissions to FADV. Below you can find the Donate button for the Blessing Bags, and the links to our BeneYOU and Posh sites where you can order and commissions will go to FADV.
Links have been removed since the fundraiser is over.
Riding the Rapids
Since I seem to be having the same conversation with clients, friends, and family, I thought that I might need to put this info into a blog for all those that may need it. We are in the middle of a lot of powerful astrological energies. Eclipses and retrogrades are all about the shadow side of things, meaning the things we don't want to look at, old patterns and dynamics that we need to revisit and let go of completely, and all the loose ends that need to be tied or the things that we were clinging to that need to be released before we move on to our next phase. This month, that focus seems to be on relationships.
So many couples fighting or splitting up, friendships falling apart, new relationships that trigger our fears, and old relationships (friends or lovers) coming back to be revisited. Really, the core is old dynamics. Do we want to repeat them or do we want to break out of them? You can sit and focus, blame, or resent the other person, but you are better off looking at yourself.
Our relationships reflect our inner world. If you are feeling disrespected, where are you disrespecting yourself? If you are feeling not heard, where are you not listening to yourself? If you are feeling abandoned or alone, where are you ignoring your own needs? Others should still be held accountable for their actions, and boundaries probably need to be made in some places, but you will find peace and healing the more you can focus back on yourself.
On the flip side of this, it is a time when true intimacy and connection can take place. Those that are operating from the same place as you will connect in new ways. New people will pop into your life and it will be like a missing piece falling into place. You will have the opportunity to feel truly seen, heard, and loved as long as you can get your head out of the way and be open and vulnerable enough to allow it.
No matter what, this time is going to push you forward and shake things up (sometimes literally, physically with natural disasters). The Fairies talked about this month being like riding white river rapids in the monthly message (read here). It's fast, intense, tumultuous, and can be scary or fun depending on how you want to look at it. You might be clinging to a boat that is carrying you down. You might feel like you got bucked from the boat and are being carried down. Either way, you will end up at the bottom of the river and make it out to sea.
If you find you are really struggling with this energy you might benefit from a Shadow Eclipse Reading. They can be found in the Store section as well as other services.