I recently saw a meme that said something like: Self-care is not chocolates and bubble baths, it's making a life you don't want to escape. While I get the sentiment, and sort of agree, what I really believe is that it is both! Yes, self-care is having the hard conversations, setting boundaries, facing your fears, and doing that hard deep inner work. It is taking the risks and setting a life you love and that lets you fully express your authentic self. BUT, no matter how great your relationship, kids, job, town you live in and other parts of your life are, you will still want a break. You might just get joy from chocolates and bubble baths, and that's self-care too. Doing things that are joyful and fun just for the sake of being joyful and fun is also self-care.
This actually helped me find the missing piece I needed to restructure my business for 2021. I want to be able to offer you all the ways I know to “Find Your Sparkle”! This could be information from the Fairies, one of the books I have written, pampering products, crystals, helping you starting your own business, sparkly nails, or a great meditation video. I am a many-layered person. These are all the ways I do self-care and keep my life sparkling. It is all the ways I find magic in my day to day.
I think too often those in the “new age” or “self-help” community try to be too serious. I understand why. They are afraid they won't be taken seriously. We have been so bombarded by society that, to be an adult and be taken seriously, we have to be serious and restrained. It's something I have always struggled with. Since I am a punk, a geek, a Disnerd, and have always rebelled against what is conventional, I didn't know how to be authentic and present myself professionally. What I have learned is that I just have to be me. No one cares about all the things I worried they would, and if they did, they weren't my audience. I needed to be me so my “Pixies” could find me. That's what I call all my friends, clients, and social media followers. You are my Pixies.
So, over the first few months here, I am going to be rolling out new additions to my website, new products and services, and a bunch of free offerings! Get ready, Pixies. It's going to be even easier to Find Your Sparkle!