Relationships

This started as a post on Facebook. It had so much interaction that I decided to expand it into a blog.

I just watched an advertisement that made me worry for other females. If a man is ignoring you, showing signs of disinterest, or wanting to break up with you, trying to find a way to “trick” him into it is not going to benefit you. This woman was selling a text message system that will “make him obsessed and addicted” to you. Who wants that?! Someone obsessively calling and texting you is not fun. No matter how much you like them, it will wear on you. We live in this society that makes women think that they want someone who focuses only on them, but someone without their own life has nothing to share with you.

How about we stop pushing stereotypes that women have to manipulate men to try and control them into being committed? Or the stereotype that men are sex-crazed fickle beings who always want something new and shiny? It's like women are supposed to find the best beast and trick him into a cage. Is that really the way you want to start a relationship?

Also, the reference cases that she used said things like “he was cute and a doctor, total package right?” and described another as “handsome, rich, and made all her friends jealous” as if these were describing the perfect man. Is he funny, kind, smart, self-aware, socially aware, or do they even like each other? I don't know. She didn't cover that. I think both sexes are sent the message that being sexually desirable is the most important thing. For women, that is generally physical appearance and for men it is about money and status and/or physical appearance.

Our society loves to push the idea that once you get someone to commit romantically to you that you're happy and your life is fixed. Plus, this should be the focus of your life if you’re not in a relationship. It’s such BS. If we spent half as much energy and time, as a society, on self-development that we do on how to snag a partner, we would be a different society.

I will give you a free system that will totally work on any man or woman. First find one you like for them. Not because they are hot, rich, or connected. But one you actually like to be around. Then talk openly and honestly with them. Mean what you say. Now here is the BIG secret: listen to them. Like actually hear what they are saying, then take that at face value and respect it. Don’t look for hidden meanings or games. Even if they are doing that, you don’t want them, so move on.

Bottom line: let integrity and honesty be your game plan and don’t let others treat you less than fabulous. Desperation will come through no matter how expertly crafted your text message.

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Gratitude

In the US, we are celebrating Thanksgiving this week. When we talk about gratitude and giving thanks, the focus is often on appreciating what we have. People say things like, “I know I should be grateful for what I have, so many have less,” as if this is a limiting belief to stop your dreaming. Gratitude should not come from a place of martyrdom or low self-worth. Gratitude is giving thanks for what we have so we can open up to more. Gratitude is saying thank you and opening ourselves to allowing more to blessing to come. If you are only grateful because other people are homeless or other people are sick or other people have less, then you are not being grateful. Gratitude is not a comparison. Gratitude is a celebration of what you have. You should feel so abundant that you share with those around you. When you see lack, it is not to compare your life with theirs, but to see where you can help fill a void.

Likewise, don't view others’ good fortune from a place of lack. Instead of feeling envious, you should celebrate others’ accomplishments. If they did something, so can you. When you witness good fortune, goals are met, or something powerful is created, it is brought into your awareness as a possibility. Before, you didn't know how to connect with that thought or feeling. Once you know someone that has done something, you can recreate it in your own life.

Here is what the Fairies have to say about gratitude:

“2018 is the year for seed planting. Gratitude is how you feed those plants. We have told you about the energetic wave or arc that you are currently riding. Yes, you are still in some of the chaos, but it has also been a foundation year. All of Humanity has started setting up their new way of being. All of Humanity has planted the seeds of the reality they are creating. When you truly connect with gratitude, you harmonize with the feeling of limitless possibility. You know the Universe is supplying you with all the support and resources you need. When it doesn't look that way, you might need to shift your perspective. We know there are humans truly struggling in poverty, homelessness, and hunger. We know there are many being displaced by natural disasters or who have lost all their material possessions. We do not want to negate Human suffering. We want you to see that gratitude is an energy that all can connect with. Gratitude, and that limitless feeling, is not about Earthly success or material possessions. Gratitude is about the miracle of your life and the magic that lives in you. Stop worrying about being enough to receive and instead love the fact that every cell in your body knows exactly what to do to keep you alive. Stop over thinking the experiences in your life and instead love your brain and its powerful perception of everything around you. Stop wondering what you deserve or if you have worked hard enough and instead love yourself. Love yourself for being alive. Love yourself for making it this far. Have gratitude for yourself and every challenge you have faced and every obstacle you have overcome.”

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Finding Myself

There are dark times on every path. These last few years seem to be heavy with the dark moments. I feel like I have lost a bit of myself and my soul over the last few years. My mother had two brain surgeries, one planned and one emergency. Don't get me wrong, we experienced miracles in the last few years. She almost died multiple times. We weren't sure she would be able to even talk again after her fall and brain bleed. A lot of healing was done by many healers, myself, and doctors and nurses. But in all of that, there were a lot of nights sleeping for only a few hours in a chair or on a lumpy cot. Nights of no sleep due to worry or due to keeping mom calm while dealing with hallucinations. Nights of being on call in case she needed help or something happened. Nights away from my husband and children. The medical procedures all had new things for me to learn for care at home. It seemed like there was always a new stress or condition or procedure to prepare for. I recently heard this described as trying to drink from a fire house. I think that describes it well.

Finally mom got sable. She still needs constant care due to poor eyesight and inability to walk, but she is stable. So, in February, I had a hysterectomy to deal with Adenomyosis. I couldn't take the physical pain of that anymore. Going through that recovery process, I realized that I did not have much support. I also realized that I had lost me along the way. Between my own pain and the stress of my mother's health, I had become less me. I liked to have fun and be social, but instead I was isolating and stressed all the time. My kids had lost that mom. My daughter even made comments about how I was grumpy or sad or serious all the time.

I can sit here and blame situations or people, but it was my doing. I stopped fighting for me. I kept giving away bits of myself and not asking for anything in return. I knew I had to shift. I'm still in this shift. I'm slowly reclaiming myself back, but I am allowing myself space to grow into more. This last week, I went to a Conference for my direct sales business. It was powerful and fun. The most important part was I felt like my old self. I was being silly, loud, dancing, singing, and having a good time.

Yes, we all have the dark times that make us want to give up or sell our souls. It's easy to let go of hope and cave in to the darkness. Instead, I invite you to rest. This can be sleep or just letting your soul rest. Don't let anyone define this for you. Whatever brings you joy and eases your soul, embrace it! Then start reprogramming your brain. Question everything if you have to. What are your motives? Why do you react the way you do? What do you really want? Help yourself believe once again in yourself. Find your sparkle!

Message to Humanity from The Fairies

I have shared this many times over the years. I feel it is fitting to be the first Blog post on the new site.

 “The energy of who you are, is not limited by the forms it takes. It is still all a part of the One. The human form that you are taking is the best way to get to the pure form. Humans have this thought process that somehow they are less than other Beings, say us (fairies) or the dragons, because they are more dense, because they aren’t as aligned with the God energy all the time. The truth is that the beings who have chosen to be Fairy, to be Angelic, to be Dragon, to be Ascended Master, whatever, and hold that form, they now are just that energy. A very pure state of it, but they can not pull from the other energies.

A Fairy can not channel through Angelic energy. It is just not possible for us, because we have chosen a certain vibration, a certain fluid way of being. So, in our fluidity, in our vibrational energy pattern being raised, however you want to look at it, we have lost that ability. You need to be more dense in order to open to the lighter side. Air can not hold water the way that a cup can. So, though you are denser, more structured in your way of being in your earth plane, it is also that structuring that has allowed you the ability to pull forward many energies, many ways of being and embody them and bring them to the earth plane.

Why do you think all of us treasure humanity so? Humanity it is the place that all the energies blend back together. It is like it starts at the One and gets spread out in a spectrum through all these different avenues. And it is through humanity that it can pull those energies back together to the One again, the other side of the spectrum. There is a way to become so light, so open, that you lose the individuality and become part of the One. There is a way to get so focused that all the individualities get brought together into one Individuality, and to the One.

That is why it is so important for us that humanity continues to open. We can work with the Angels, but we can not combine our energy with their energy unless there is a human there to do it. We can work with the Dragons, but we can not combine our energy with them unless there is a human to do it.

It is a great honor to be human. Stop trying to be something else. Humanity has too many judgments about itself. It needs to love itself. Humanity is a very honorable thing. A human being is a very honorable thing to be. Yes, you have the dark side. You have the polarity, the duality. But that is what helps anchor you. That is what helps keep the denser part of you which is what really allows you to open and bring all of these energies together, to the cup that holds the etheric waters.

It is the human form that is able to blend all the energies together and pull them forward. It is not about people wanting to be more Fairy. It isn’t about understanding our Realm and who we are and trying to go there. It is for humanity to understand who they are and their important part in this expanded universe of the many realms and the many beings.

It is wonderful to be a human at this time. There are some amazing things going on. As a human you get to experience all of them! All the great work being done by all the beings all around you! You are sitting at the spiritual buffet of life!

It is time for humanity to get it! Why all the beings say they love them so much. Why we talk about how important it is for them to keep moving forward. Why they have been chosen to be these wonderful beings called human.

It is not some lowly form. It gives the filters, the ability to see the beauty of everything and to pull from many places, many energies and experience them. Watching humanity sometimes is like watching the great master violin player walk around in beggar’s clothing. Not playing a violin. Not sharing its gifts with the world. Not taking care and honoring the talent that lays there.

We offer you the violin. Play it! Bring all your talent forward to the earth and see what an amazing talented being you are by just naturally being you, this highly evolved being called human.”

-The Fairies